As we all know, what works for one child may not work for another – different approaches might be needed, as long as they are fair and equal in the case of siblings. It is also a good idea to make a plan together for the strategies that will come into play as the children grow.
The most important part of disciplining a child is consistency; what happens with the nanny during the day must continue with the parents after she leaves, and vice-versa. When a nanny sets a consequence during the day and it isn’t followed through with, the child is more likely to repeat the bad behavior and the nanny feels undermined and disrespected.
If this has become a problem in your home, deal with it sooner rather than later. Organize a time for you and your Nanny to sit down and have a clear and frank discussion about what is and isn’t working to get you both back on the same page. Clear communication is key.
See below for some strategies and ideas that might work for you and your family: